The Village Required

know why and how and what it means "it takes a village to raise a child"?

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this muse hit me this morning when my nieces came to our home this morning, for their grandmother to take care of them, but came without nary a book. they also came hungry, despite having something of a breakfast (one boiled egg, cucumber and toasts for one, the other opted out of the toast). At 9:30am

Now as i write this intro, i am wondering, now what of these children when they are in school and by 9:30 they are hungry? so how are they to learn and make it through the day, comfortably, with functionality? these things i am sure my mother is not thinking of, and if i am to raise them i am showing up the lack and insufficiency of their mother. difficulties and quandaries, yet, who suffers? the children

 "suffer the children, for who shall be their salvation:" 

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• • should i be shame to say is only this morning that the equation, theorem, proof and system came to me?
    because it is rare for a parent to have all the tools, insights, skills, sensitivities, leanings, expertise and mind to provide all the pieces required by the child/
    
    the idea to:
    
    brush teeth, how and totally
    bathing and cleanliness, from personal to environment
    food, healthy, wholesome and healing
    clothing, proper, elevating and appropriate
    hair, neat and meticulous at all times
    teaching and learning, at every moment
    building, to bring a book with you whenever moving
    using the summer break, in activities to build skills that prepare for coming year
    medicals, timely and scheduled,
    capacity, chores and contributions
    exposures, all round:
    propriety, how to be, conduct and comport
    attendant, at every moment, even when out of presence
    speaking, engaging, instruction
    behavior, control, management, guidance
    activities and participation, building intelligences
    gathering and quietm, self reflection
    action and consequences, costs and payment
    contribution to self, pod, family, community
    partnership, with other children and adults
    collaboration, no competition
    how to build a whole, not fragments
    how to teach to fill self/
    content and strong foundation building
    resilience and grace
    ....
    and this list is not complete
    who can do that, all of it. every moment of a child's life?
    but a phalanx of a troop, will could contribute, each a part. the village
    to the child. just one
    
    even children in so-called "good homes" not even getting that
    see the trip in the wiring
    
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