Sex Perspectives to Gender

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["4 older men, all of whom I work with, just fought me down around the topic that 90% (that's the running statistic, it seems, but it can be as high as 95%) of women have more than one sexual partner regardless of whether they're in a committed relationship.
In fact, all women, according to these men, are easier to court and 'get tru' with after entering in a romantic relationship with someone else.
One gentleman intimates that this is good news, as 'yuh doh hadda claim she...buh yuh f***ing she'.

PS: All women, regardless of their sexual orientation, 'Love the D'...
And people have to ask me why I call myself feminist now?
Because the average male view of women is so woefully myopic, but also so critical to one's manhood, that I could be considered an idiot for not thinking of all women as objects for special gratification for myself and other men. Because this expectation of what men are makes me not want to call myself a man at all..."]    BOBrien

this is an interesting post.

it feels as if i am being inveigled to speak my mind, when i was at a default position to keep my thoughts to myself.

i repost cause it is worthy too. feeling a how to have to add anything here to lose focus is worthy at one hundred percent to the original author, my thoughts come after.

but just this morning i woke up. after thoughts....my new life style change initiatives. been pondering since sunday night what a family member said to me, it sending me in pursuit to get to one of my old masseuse's the one best for lymphatic drainage, reiki and deep muscle massages. cause why? massages have always been the cheat method for not being active. riding on my old athleticism of my youth and a body of strong cellular memory, it had worked for me for years. and i have a peculiar body. it gets out of alignment, where i used to go and get adjusted at least once a month. i have not been for a good year, owing to my loss of mobility and no money to hire, transport..

but the thinking of the needs of the body this morning, and focusing on different pinpoint matters to address, i thought of sex. and i felt as though women had no idea how critical it is for them to have sex..to keep the womb healthy, in place, for lack of sex it can prolapse, many may have surgery to correct. sex also helps keeps a body aligned and in my view, perspective, and reality, sex as in good sex, as in full sex, as in sex, and if it not all of that, just go home and stay there.,.is critical for keeping the body aligned, . and if good sex includes deep muscle rubs and caresses, you can see the release of the muscles against calcification and toxin load.

but in my mind, seems many have no idea of this, not the women around me who seem to be very contented and happy without, and who think i am having loads of it by the bucket full, so this post is interesting. men really think that?

and then i know too we are talking a class of men eh. one of the things fascinating about trinidad is that it so damn small and there are like one million stories of realities, and every can point to a critical mass to prove their truth. this place defies every possible explanation.

i wish i could integrate that court meme from the cricketeer's case where the judge quotes him as saying, 'she was just a fuck'. i have no words to embrace the total lack of humanity in that== men dont even value the fuck. and what i just wrote is complicated and can be easily if not one hundred percent misinterpreted what i am saying but i dont have the energy to explain. just suffice it to say. the total stripping of humaneness toward the woman , female or - is one thing. i am realizing now that males dont even value the exercise in and of it self, to give it even the dust speck of regard. "she was just a fuck". "just a fuck" when a fuck is like a spit, anywhere, of minus a million consequence.

something so

i think these rare men should come together. the brendon o;brien's the justice seepersad. and form a group. and meet in a gayelle so the few of us women like me can sit and watch. silently if we be permitted to enter their manspace

there have long been things i wish i could do-- but this aint that place, space, there is not that freedom to seek after my own health and wellbeing, my own embrace, and nor is there the soil to take such a sacred seed.

i am really intrigued to read this is the perspective of women. i wish we could take a poll to find the truth and then write a spreadsheet, categorizing for lack of a better term= by class, structure, employment and hypocrisy. yeah that...the big powerful ladies in suits, i wonder how many garden men they have for friends. i also want to know the sex goddesses who are bereft.. more than once in my life i was told my body made for making babies. lol

and while i am on the topic and may never venture there again and this may be the closest and most exposing i ever near...but why is it that the perfect offers come from the wrong people? why dont the scenarios we wish to make and write, draw, pull and create, not come to us, but all manner of what can never be tenable.

another related point: i know at least one sister who 'phucks' whomever she wants, whenever she wants, regardless of if all of them know one another, lime together, work together. i have seen it with my own eyes. incredulous i was. to see that level of agency, authenticity, doh care, boldness, ballsyness, but i have over time left with the question of if something is wrong with this sister, cause after everyone started to talk about her she ran away, stayed away, stopped being public. and i am like, did you not know. this woman ended up being in a short stint of some kind of affair with another woman in the hood.

i will just say the human stories about me have been just almost blow mind. and not all have i been upclose and privy.

i think of the other story i know most outside my own

a young couple. in their early thirties, at least the male, i dont know about the female. but he is the most selfish man i felt i have ever encountered in my life. he is a serial cheater. he is bipolar possibly schizophrenic, and i get a chance to observe this girlfriend. via social media: endless posts of pain, angst, anger, feelings of betrayal, changing pics of her profile, from them as couple to other members her mother and niece. and i am confluxxed and confused as to why she is there and stays. eight years. and a year ago i was told that relationship was on the out.. i watch her and wonder why she does not get a life, get other lovers, find other friends. and she is a red, ehnt that is the preferred. so integrate this story couple to the original post. and. no i dont know anything for a fact, just that i seem to see a female tethered and choosing heartbreak over freedom

good morning

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