12noon Monday Janary 14, 2013
Morning of Dat 351:
Communication, Comprehension Retrogrades or Judgmental?
I have something to write about but dont feel that i really have the energy. But this morning is full of challenging communications in three quarters And it leaves me wonder what day is this?
I write one person, one who i usually communicate with ease, and he projects upon me 'impatience' because i posted alerts on his page. Come to find out he refines his offense to me posting said alerts on threads that are out of context. Fine. I can accept that but you know what it did. It gave me distance. Cause i thought if this bothers you, if you are going to take the time to be bothered and put off by that, now, What will you be offended for later when the energies do get high or activities intense? Not a good omen. Then I realized I used to be like that..persnickety..on what happens what, when how..and i was like that as recently as Christmas with the little girls in my family...and I resolved to let them be as they are especially if no one else is checking them and I am always the only one...But the larger issue is that I do not wish to be that picky and bothersome and surely not encouraged to work with someone who is in that mode. I am trying to move away from that.. so why would i place myself there?
Then in another exchange. Someone offers information and because I query, check and interrogate it, he attempts to withdraw. Someone else too I was going to be working with..Thank goodness he realized that was on the rails, apologized and brought forth the information. Just the touchiness of it all. Makes you wonder who people are, what is being protected or guarded.
Then on a post on my page this morning. I posted a graphic
Someone responded thusly, wrongheadedly, out of ignorance, but so boldly, i find.>.not to ask a question of clarification for understanding but to dismiss what is written as if lacking sense>>>
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JH: "This makes no sense who would slaves have been indebted to? If anyone was indebted in slavery it would have been the planters to the slaves. If the idea is to suggest that workers are. Slaves in a capitalist system we should consider how abused and misinterpreted the word slave is and how misinformed about slavery and self this makes us."
and that is where i get to the incomprehension of the smartest of people as well as the ignorance and limited context information they hold and operate from. So they take a post of modern day dynamics, life and reality and apply it to their only knowledge of a ;slave context;? Note the tense =
"who would slaves have been indebted to?" versus the Debt IS... Historic to Current? Comprehension> Much>
then she clearly shows an absence of knowledge of how the capitalist system is popularly characterized. I offered no explanation or suggestion or correction
Then finally, I posted this pic of my observation on the variant shocking variation of color of this beauty queen who has clearly been spray-tanned. but realizing they forgot to do her hand...how is that possible? and look at the comment from another reader...
BNH: " judgmental....... ;)"
Morning of Dat 351:
Communication, Comprehension Retrogrades or Judgmental?
I have something to write about but dont feel that i really have the energy. But this morning is full of challenging communications in three quarters And it leaves me wonder what day is this?
I write one person, one who i usually communicate with ease, and he projects upon me 'impatience' because i posted alerts on his page. Come to find out he refines his offense to me posting said alerts on threads that are out of context. Fine. I can accept that but you know what it did. It gave me distance. Cause i thought if this bothers you, if you are going to take the time to be bothered and put off by that, now, What will you be offended for later when the energies do get high or activities intense? Not a good omen. Then I realized I used to be like that..persnickety..on what happens what, when how..and i was like that as recently as Christmas with the little girls in my family...and I resolved to let them be as they are especially if no one else is checking them and I am always the only one...But the larger issue is that I do not wish to be that picky and bothersome and surely not encouraged to work with someone who is in that mode. I am trying to move away from that.. so why would i place myself there?
Then in another exchange. Someone offers information and because I query, check and interrogate it, he attempts to withdraw. Someone else too I was going to be working with..Thank goodness he realized that was on the rails, apologized and brought forth the information. Just the touchiness of it all. Makes you wonder who people are, what is being protected or guarded.
Then on a post on my page this morning. I posted a graphic
Someone responded thusly, wrongheadedly, out of ignorance, but so boldly, i find.>.not to ask a question of clarification for understanding but to dismiss what is written as if lacking sense>>>
.
JH: "This makes no sense who would slaves have been indebted to? If anyone was indebted in slavery it would have been the planters to the slaves. If the idea is to suggest that workers are. Slaves in a capitalist system we should consider how abused and misinterpreted the word slave is and how misinformed about slavery and self this makes us."
and that is where i get to the incomprehension of the smartest of people as well as the ignorance and limited context information they hold and operate from. So they take a post of modern day dynamics, life and reality and apply it to their only knowledge of a ;slave context;? Note the tense =
"who would slaves have been indebted to?" versus the Debt IS... Historic to Current? Comprehension> Much>
then she clearly shows an absence of knowledge of how the capitalist system is popularly characterized. I offered no explanation or suggestion or correction
Then finally, I posted this pic of my observation on the variant shocking variation of color of this beauty queen who has clearly been spray-tanned. but realizing they forgot to do her hand...how is that possible? and look at the comment from another reader...
BNH: " judgmental....... ;)"
Maven Huggins: eyes: observation ;(
So, to notice something means you are being judgmental> then I wondered why would she think and feel that...I talk and write all the time about how careless people are in their jobs and tasks.
But i saved this one for last for a reason...i wonder...Am I being Judgmental? And TOO??? too?
Irony ;D
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post script...
i just recalled another aspect of this mornings communication conundrum...
an artisan food maker I support...on his page were pics of individual and mini apple pies that i thought would be perfect for the sunset cruise. it was clear to me that he did not make them but the person who posted the pic. i wrote if i can place an order to have them made by that person.. you know the man, who is neither the maker nor the manager answered, on behalf of the women, one of whom is his girlfriend.. he writes and explains someone else can make them and gave that person's name. that person answered him on the thread with a thank you and a smilte but never addressed me, offered to talk to me, introduced her service to me. so I did not venture. but i did respond in an attempt to temper my sarcasm, who is kristen? and i saw pics posted by kathy, and so wanted an order of what was pictured by kathy.. so he explains that kathy is his girlfriend, she made the desserts for christmas dinner and i am thinking, how does that, either factor, prevent her from responding answering her self, with her agency, voice and independence, and her making an order? but the shock to me that a man will feel he can answer for a woman...it is such an amazing thing to note myself in that dynamic...who would take note of that ...I must indeed be a raging Feminist, as much as I hate that word and its associations and its curse and its historic context cause white women have nothing to do with me and my path...
anyway so many dynamics in all of this. in two of these stories were between and of a racial aspect. the other two were among us black folk..
sometimes experiences present too many prisms
So, to notice something means you are being judgmental> then I wondered why would she think and feel that...I talk and write all the time about how careless people are in their jobs and tasks.
But i saved this one for last for a reason...i wonder...Am I being Judgmental? And TOO??? too?
Irony ;D
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post script...
i just recalled another aspect of this mornings communication conundrum...
an artisan food maker I support...on his page were pics of individual and mini apple pies that i thought would be perfect for the sunset cruise. it was clear to me that he did not make them but the person who posted the pic. i wrote if i can place an order to have them made by that person.. you know the man, who is neither the maker nor the manager answered, on behalf of the women, one of whom is his girlfriend.. he writes and explains someone else can make them and gave that person's name. that person answered him on the thread with a thank you and a smilte but never addressed me, offered to talk to me, introduced her service to me. so I did not venture. but i did respond in an attempt to temper my sarcasm, who is kristen? and i saw pics posted by kathy, and so wanted an order of what was pictured by kathy.. so he explains that kathy is his girlfriend, she made the desserts for christmas dinner and i am thinking, how does that, either factor, prevent her from responding answering her self, with her agency, voice and independence, and her making an order? but the shock to me that a man will feel he can answer for a woman...it is such an amazing thing to note myself in that dynamic...who would take note of that ...I must indeed be a raging Feminist, as much as I hate that word and its associations and its curse and its historic context cause white women have nothing to do with me and my path...
anyway so many dynamics in all of this. in two of these stories were between and of a racial aspect. the other two were among us black folk..
sometimes experiences present too many prisms
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